Reddit wife cheated father Full stop. After a few months I noticed that my wife and dad were getting very close with each other. We share a 15 year old daughter together and co-parent exclusively through my sisters, or email. Your cheating wife is not remorseful not honest and is still involved with her affair partner. My wife continues to ask me for another chance, but I'm not sure how to proceed or if that's what I want. Her life turned out great. I was seriously thinking some dangerous thoughts when Michael dissuaded me from doing so. It was intended to offset the years the wife was out of work raising the child and helping the husband's Rules reminder: r/survivinginfidelity is a support sub! Please read the rules and guidelines in our sub wiki before commenting. TLDR. It's not cheating back it's the loss of the commitment it self I wouldn't ask myself why i would cheat i would ask myself why i would remain faithful For whom To spare the feeling of the wife why would she be hurt she already did it for so long To spare the son from having a cheating parent he already does To save the marriage if the marriage My father cheated with his girlfriend before marriage. Ironic, given that Chris cheated on his ex wife that was dying of cancer with Peaches. I never even suspected he wasn’t my father, I had no reason to. She doesn’t know I got a paternity test done. We have been together for nearly a decade, have two kids, and a house together. AP's ex-wife and I bonded over a mutual hatred of our ex's, so we thought it would torture them if we became a "couple". My wife immediately rolls over to her phone, but I don't think anything of it. Document everything. Initially they only had the backwards story she told them, which was basically the same thing she tried to tell police. I worked about 50 hrs a wk. I wanted to write this sooner than I expected, but only got up the courage now. THIS & the original comment above. She respected that. We had been married about 2 years when I found out she cheated on me with an old high school friend. Oh yea that tattoo he branded on her happened before the separation. It wasn't sexual or maybe it was but it is unknown. The Real Housewives of Atlanta; The Bachelor; Sister Wives; 90 Day Fiance; Wife Swap; The Amazing Race Australia; Married at First Sight; The Real Housewives of Dallas If she was happy and cheated, I would feel I failed in instilling the value of integrity in her. I’ve kind of accepted it. TLDR: turn out my friend and my wife have been sleeping together more often than just once (typical) I want to leave but I will, I want to be a good father to the child currently in her womb, which my friend insists is not him despite admitting to everything else. She had been cheating on me on and off through out our marriage. Her father especially was ready to attack me. I remember saying, "Are you asking your husband, who you cheated on, to console the loss of your boyfriend?" Jul 11, 2011 · Wife cheated on me with my dad. And have had to live with this knowledge for almost a week. I can’t imagine this has happened to me and my wife. I was paranoid one night a guy would find out and kill her and us. As for your wife. But that’s the point, it has to be agreed upon by all parties. This was in Hilo, HI. She did not adopt the child and has no responsibility. I asked her if she had ever cheated on me before all of this, and she swore on her dead father that this was the first and last time. My ex-wife (37F) cheated on me (37M)6 years ago and when I discovered her in a 4 month affair with a married man. They will see you are the stable parent and someday realize your wife's affair has impacted their life forever. Intimacies and emotional that should be set aside for only one person. Apparently my dad was unhappy in the relationship for some reason, his brother's wife was also unhappy for some reason, and they bonded. I know that only time will actually help relieve your mind but maybe I can help a bit. Everyone i know that is married cheated/got cheated on before or after they got married. Just say something to the effect of You’re still the father just not DNA wise. I'm not talking about the wife cheating. At first she told me it was only over text, but a few days later she confessed to it being physical. I found out because AP wife sent me all of the pictures and videos that they took cheating on us with on his phone. The thing is, when a parent cheats, they're not just cheating on their spouse, they're cheating on their children and the vision of family those children thought they had. I filed and waited the 90 cooling off period. Wife and father had a years-long affair, but the couple are still married, and the father and mother are still married. Feb 1, 2022 · A husband and father has been left reeling after uncovering proof his partner of six years has been having multiple affairs. I never really feel like I have anything to add to the world of Reddit, so this is my first actual comment, but I found out my fiancée was cheating on me 3 1/2 years ago and also called off the wedding. We repaired the relationship and recently married. Ever since she unveiled that the kids aren’t mine she hasn’t allowed me to see them. I do not drink and I hate cheating. I think you're very hurt right now. That's way too heavy for a 13yr old. This is well established in marital, family and contract law) Your husband is the presumptive father. The relief I felt after it was finalized was worth it. TLDR: My (M34) wife (F29) cheated on me (emotionally) while we were engaged and left me for another man. He is all happy about having those kids now but they are not accustomed to him. I'm not saying your wife will try to come back, but the odds are good, so be prepared for that, ahead of time. Surely he knows what is at stake here. ORIGINAL by u/fullyfaithfulwife. So I told his wife and she divorced AP, taking him for pretty much everything. So basically she cheated on her Fiance (Me) with AP2 and AP1 and she cheated on AP2 with AP1. OP (if he initiates a divorce) would then have to pay child support for the kid till he gets old (which technically isn't his). Wanting to know who your wife cheated with is normal and has nothing to do with any rights to privacy. It is more useful to try explaining about how amd why this cheating came about. She then returned a few months later without mentioning the affair. As for your daughter, it is a while before XMas. I went back home after I cooled down a bit to find out what And for your Ex, well hope she can find your POS father and tell him that he will be again a father and she hope that he don't do the same to this one. Not all cheating and all cheaters are actually alike. So is your father. Cheating is one of those things that, even though it can be a "mistake", really shows you something about a person's character. To “work on herself” and then find another man who “deserves you. My dad’s first wife cheated on him, they got divorced and a while later he met my mom. I’ve been wanting to post an update, I’d like to say I’ve been busy but honestly the thought of trying to explain everything up to this point has just been overwhelming so I’ve avoided it. Your wife will become boring for him because he will have to play father. Seems your wife and daughter both have very low values and beliefs concerning fidelity, trust and faithfulness. Your father has been confronted. She wanted my help getting through it. Again, this is the part I'm referring to: but cheating husband's should sever all contact with theirs The article the OP posted suggested that if a husband cheats, and a child results from that cheating, that the husband should several all contact with their child. It is a surreal feeling to be in a position where you feel the need to comfort the person who cheated on you because the person she cheated with died. I can only imagine what her father is thinking. This is reddit so the misandry was to be expected. They joked around a lot and hung out. Nor can you sweep the fact that she is a cheater. Similarly, the wife's wages can not be garnished to pay child support for this child. I was so scared to lose my mom if I told on her while she was cheating. I think you're angry because your mom betrayed you, personally, by cheating on your dad. Your father has been controlling and cruel to keep causing custody disputes with your mother when the real problem was right under his nose the whole time. My father had always been the type to talk to his female friends a lot and help them a lot and my mother was very insecure about it. And in the same month our family decided to get us married in March2024. Then to learn all that was a lie. Your husband is the presumptive father as long as the marriage is valid (even if he does not sign the birth cert. I love my husband, we've been together since college and he's the love of my life, he's handsome and kind and while I've slept with two other people, both were before we got together. It wasn't the first time she cheated on me, she had once before cheated on me with one of my male friends but I forgave her and gave her a second chance which I clearly shouldn't have done. I mean it would TOTALLY break my heart. Long story short I found out my wife cheated and the two kids we had together weren’t mine and I reacted in the worst possible way and left. Your daughter has learned from your wife what not to be and seen the damage it does. This is what I did after my wife cheated with a coworker. Less than 3 months after she moved to be near him, he dumped her. AP2 was emotionally traumatized and didn't know what to do. Even his kids ended up with a father figure. You will know what to look for. While I feel that divorce is the only right option, I can't help but feel guilty for doing this to my son. You obviously know her parents pretty well. Having said that, let me offer a few pointers from my own experience. It would totally break my heart if one of them did something like this. When I caught my ex having a year long affair, I asked her if she had cut off all contact with the Guy and she replied that she could if I really wanted her to. I hated my father the most because he'd left me for 14 years, comes back and fucks my wife. I’m at a lost now on what to do. Kids don't care about biology. I always think there’s a possibility i’ll get cheated on. I told her sister, and she’s basically been disowned. Who cares if his cheating marriage with his cheating wife breaks up? He didn't care when he broke up his marriage with your mother and destroyed your home life. I was raging mad but tamped it down because the most important thing is getting divorced and away from the person. I am also not shocked he's still single. "You can not control what others do. I suggest you spend as much time with her as possible. And you didn't do anything to cause it. Then she just ended up doing the same, but she did the worst thing imaginable and had him unknowingly raise another man’s child (and intended to keep him in the dark indefinitely). ” Disgusting. The ex-wife was abusive (raped me, beat me, etc. My wife cheated on me with her ex, I found out messages. Her parents had called me after a couple days wanting to know if my wife was ok. Present her with the evidence you have and tell her your wife deleted the text and tel her the date and time your wife was with her at the hotel. Recently my wife, my Father in law(FIL), & I went on a trip about 8 hours driving to a wedding, one way. She is the primary breadwinner as I was diagnosed with a serious illness a few years ago. Your daughter will always see you as her father. Protect yourself. Move on to better. Help. The person who was your wife is dead and gone. Self respect has to do with how you expect to be treated by others, and this comes from self confidence. He’s not mine. My wife cheated on me 4 years ago. Then all hell broke loose. He just let himself be dumb. We moved to Ft Lauderdale, FL because she got… Yeah she fucked up big time. You have to act like her father who has to threaten her with taking the phone away if she’s not cleaning her room…. I never cheated. If she was unhappy and cheated, I would feel I failed in instilling the value of strength in her. They need you to be there for them. So you also need to be careful not to accuse your wife or make your wife out to be the bad guy. I know you do not want your sons to have separated parents and I can understand this but your wife is a rat. Found out too my wife never loved me, she only married me because she was in her 30s and I was a responsible guy that would make a good father. I recently found out my mother cheated on my father around the time I was born. Also if the AP has a wife talk to the AP's wife without your wife present. I'm a father of two young girls, grade school. As I made my way down, I caught a glimpse in the corner of my eye of my wife getting off her father's lap. 224 votes, 83 comments. My dad cheated on my mum with his brother's wife when they were young and married. Once he gets into that daily life and responsibility of these kids who frankly do not want them there. He can basically abstain sex and call it somewhat a paternity fraud and divorce her easily without falling into the child support mess. I feel so disappointed and sad for my son. Check out confessions from real people on how their affairs started and ended. And I couldn’t take it anymore. There was a story on Reddit of a man who learned his four daughters weren't his and hung himself. Some people cheat, and never ever tell. As much as I hate your wife for hurting both of you, you cannot speak ill of her in terms of her character or in any way that may make your daughter hate your cheating wife more than she does now. If it turns out your brother is the father, you're coming across like someone who'd probably apologize to him. Everything was fine on the way there. Worst form of betrayal. People with BPD resent their support structure and I can tell you from experience, when my wife of 10 years cheated on me after we had three kids together, I felt the same way you do now. He cannot trust his wife, since she has cheated already and it got caught instead of confessing. They aren’t even married legally and Peaches doesn’t have full custody of her kids. Your wife will get mad saying "How can you do this to AP". She was wearing the tank top she had worn to bed and her short shorts (made out of soft cotton). You and the children need therapy. Now 15 years later he is dead and my ex-wife's life is turning upside down - and I feel sad for her and her other daughter. My daughter found out by going through her old messages with her friend. He was sitting in his computer chair. My man let's be honest, all of our support goes to you, you know reddit is always pessimist but at this time, there's no other option, you should wait for a couple of days until you get your head straight and start with the divorce proceedings (the sooner the better) with you having proof that she cheated on you, you should try to get as much Be thankful you still have him. My mother and father migrated to a new country, and was involved in a church when they first arrived. And all this is 100% down to her mother's callous selfishness. However i have been cheated on before and that impacts for sure. There is nothing that can be done to fix what she did. Good luck to you. That's fucked up. Kept It pretty quiet outside of this small group for obvious reasons (embarrassment factor and keeping people’s reputations intact with rest of family). The guy is in the right. Or maybe just leave me since I told. My wife, had an affair with her office colleague which started at around August of last year. After the wedding, I learned about the affair. I recovered from depression with help and was able to bounce back, got a house, tried for baby which was when STBXW cheated. They brought the girl to family functions; she was a sweet girl. I didn’t think much of it other than “great, they’re friends” and left it at that. And to have the guilt and shame of having betrayed the only real father she ever had. Depending on these facts and figures, the court decides whether the wife will receive any alimony or not. EDIT my wife doesn't know where we are , she tried following us but my daughter yelled at her asking her to respect our private space. My wife's AP was her boss, a high-income executive. I am 27 and she is 23. Hello, I made a few posts a while back about my wife and how she was cheating on me with a guy at her work. This happened in April of 2022, my wife had lots of issues with depression. Old as he is, he's big and strong. She told we confronted her and she admitted everything. Nov 20, 2024 · My ex wife was crying when she found out her AP was marrying someone 2 weeks after he got caught having an affair with her. My wife and I have been married for 3 years. NTA, do what's right for you. It felt like my heart had been ripped out of my chest. We have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter. No mention of his kids and how they handled him leaving! He sounded awful! All I could think of as I read this is, his Ex wife dodged the BIGGEST bullet. The biological father is expected to be a part of the family once his divorce is finalized as well. About a month ago his ex-wife reached out to me via social media, claiming they had been divorced for 6 months and that she wanted our children to be able to know each other. Then you’re going to get real fucking mad. I don't know how it happened and I haven't been able to stop crying all day. Logically your wife should know that affair is out of question because you are the sole provider (behavioral economics). He was a sexist before I was born and he used to tell my older brother that girls are gold diggers. My dad cheated on my mother for years with different women. I'll leave you with some hope: my uncle's wife cheated on him and got pregnant with her AP's child. Also when your father seduce her, she can just say 'no' and in western world 'no means no' is a thing right. You and your wife are comfortable with what you did and don’t consider it cheating, but a lot of people are different. We have plans to take the kids hiking for the day. Taking a whole new meaning to "daddies girl. You need to go to therapy to process this. We been together for 3 years and married for 1 year. If he does not stop, you do not have a father. But untangling that cluster fuck took a lot more time. ASAP. Both my previous wives cheated on me. But that's an entirely different story. , and that left my wife and dad a lot of alone time. He is an alcoholic, and compulsive gambler. I just want to say, when my father started to get tired a lot, it was only a matter of a couple dozen days before all he could do/wanted to do, was sleep all of the time. My lying cheating wife chose another man and that's what really got me. I suspect better than if this guy had stayed. This situation is WAY above reddit's pay grade. It's interesting her father brushed everything aside when you tried to talk to him about his A few years back I had to travel for work and I had my suspicions of my wife cheating but the thought alone brought me to tears. Stop trying to get her to care about how you feel. Big intervention between wife, uncle, my father (his brother) and my aunt (uncles wife). In December we decided to let my dad move into our home to help him straighten out his life. If my wife cheated on me I’d be burnt, but my kids sure could cool that burn. I don't thing your father will continue to flirt if your wife say 'no'. I discussed it with her and she assured me she was loyal to me. Your mission in life now is to take care of your yourself so you can be the best father possible for your kids. It’s a small town, but cheating is a sport there. I feel like cheating is so common based on everyone around me. Long story short I found out that my child or so I thought was not actually mine. She hesitated and said only her sister, but that she only knew about it a few days before I found out, and that she implored her to end it and come clean to me. Abuse, shaming, sexism, and encouraging violence/revenge are not tolerated here. Wife was very sorry and readily agreed not to contest anything. Apr 20, 2018 · Real life is sometimes stranger than fiction, especially when it involves affairs. Then found out that she cheated after a secret Ancestry test, moved out and found OM. My wife(F35) always had a good coparenting relationship with her kid's dad. OP feels betrayed because his wife cheated and provided another man with the intimacy denied to OP OP feels betrayed as his wife made him feel like a monster for floating the idea of a pass to get his needs met outside of the relationship, and then went outside of the relationship herself Your ex-wife is the only one who did anything wrong. ORIGINAL by u/ThrowRA3444343434. If she cared how you feel, she wouldn't have screwed around on you in the first place. I had constant nightmares. The wife and father have strict rules about not being alone in a room together and don’t have conversations other than small talk, and the husband has access to his wife’s devices. The colleague was already I knew he was smart. TL/DR: (My soon to be ex wife hadn’t told her family a number even close to the number of men she cheated with OR that I’m not the father of her daughter. In a post shared to Reddit's 'Today I F**ked Up' subreddit, the man My (29M) wife (33F) just told me she cheated on me. The father of your child will have zero rights or responsibilities. I am 29M and my wife 32F, married around 3 years back, no kids. Wife cheated and got pregnant Just found out that my wife (36F) cheated for about a year with our friend who also have a family of his own and now is 1 month pregnant. You’re gonna get sad. Period. My father in law said my wife only left her room for meals and hadn’t left the house since. Betraying her true father in a show of loyalty to her newly discovered bio dad. She cheated on you, she lied to your face for at least 16 years, she lied to you and had you raising children who were not yours. My wife does not want to split custody of the kids with me. Married in 2018. Flip the roles here and every 30 year old single cat lady on reddit would be telling her to divorce and leave the man to be a single father. I have started the divorce process and my wife has been served. My father told me this when I was a young man, and it has been proven to me countless times over my long life. You should probably avoid saying your wife cheated. " Thanks to a DNA Test, I learned the children she had were not mine. This is probably the only good news I've had in the past few weeks. He came into my life when I was 4yo. Because when he cheated, he chose himself & other women over everyone else & his choice didn't just affect him-it affected everyone. I always saw her as a caring, loving person who was always concerned about me, but when everything happened, she showed herself to be a completely different person, I don't know if she pretended to be that way because of our marriage. You will not be able to hide your illness much longer, and even if you choose not to fight it(my father didn't, either), you will likely need hospice care none-the-less. Even though I personally had no doubt that my father was my father (and he was for anyone wondering), I did think about this situation while waiting for the results. He's missed some important details, though, because he's a lunkhead, and now is worried that the baby his wife is carrying might actually belong to the woman he's cheating with. I'm now 22(M). . He’s the children father legally speaking, so a DNA test is not gonna remove the children from his guard or from his heart. If he took her strength, I would feel I failed in being present and setting an example of a worthwhile man to her. Well OP again hope that you continue to improve and be ok. If the wife is working and earning good: In case, the wife is working and also drawing a handsome salary, her earnings are taken into consideration along with the husband’s earnings. Yep. She has cheated in her previous relationship but I didn’t want to judge based on that because she was in high school and we’ve all done dumb shit we Three days later my wife and I are waking up in bed on a Sunday morning. Father died about two years ago. He was a drunk and a womanizer. He has reasonable doubt whether the children is biologically his or not. He even identified the man she's cheating with, who is likely the father since he has much lighter colored curly hair. When you are a child you learn from your parents on what to do and what not to do. I divorced her quickly. This will blow up in a hurry. Yes, she's by far the biggest asshole. Hello everyone I wanted to make this small update because a lot more has happened these last few days as things went downhill even further. We had a lot of ups and downs in our 5 years together. Wife cheated on me with her father I[m] read my wifes facebook messages that she has sending to her father who lives with us. If AP has a wife or SO that person needs to know. To be fair, she said that when she thought you abused your fiance and your father because your father arrived beaten up and your fiance corroborated the story. Doesn't understand how sex works, doesn't understand how trust works, doesn't understand how cheating or pregnancy work, doesn't understand why he's single. We have a very beautiful 4 yr old son. ). DON’T DO ANYTHING DUMB. I would’ve have most likely left a cheater, but if it was gonna be a chance for me to forgive them, then they had to change completely… Here is the thing that I don't understand. In my situation, my parents have been separated (not divorced, but my father has been cheating since last May, so over a year) for a while now, and this is after I had at one point left the house because I couldn't handle his narcissistic attitude (I'm a 22F, I left at about 18-19). Stop it. She also had multiple affairs, including willing sleeping with her father. Now, their kids are teenagers, so I didn’t really think they’d want anything to do with the toddler and the woman their father was having an affair with. Spousal Support is not determined based on cheating. I happened to glance over to my father in law and he was texting someone. I asked her who else knew about her and Dave. We been together since 2016/17. So yeah mom cheated on my dad when I was 19 with a good friend of his, it almost broke my father given that it was a good friend of his that she cheated on him with. Get a hobby that doesn’t involve drinking. My wife doesn’t know I know she lied about who his father is. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Spousal support is rarely awarded these days. It was over there where I cried my eyes out. It came to a head when my mom cheated on the dad on my youngest sister, the guy she had cheated on my She has location service on her phone and gps on her car but the PI confirmed that she only left her parents house once to go the supermarket. My wife 28F cheated on me 30M. Then call OP as the child's father. I can relate to your daughter. However, as many of these as I’ve seen I decided immediately it really didn’t matter even if somehow he wasn’t. The father had two families, and finally got caught. The pastor of the church, was a leader and figurehead of the community, and got involved with my parents - on the outside, it was a pastoral gesture to help a young family get settled The wife cheated, lied about it for 14 years, and allowed OP to unknowingly build an entire life build on a foundation of mistrust. Got married in 2008 and my mother died shortly after. My mother in law could not make it for health reasons. Ours was a destination wedding that I had mostly paid for because he was still a poor student whereas I was quite established in my career. He had another gf, who had a daughter. Tell him and prepare for the fallout even if that means divorce. So, I (NB 21) was cheated on by my now ex-fiancée (F20) with my step-father (M41). My ex MIL saw a bruise on my face and thought her son hit me, but really it was from my toddler daughter throwing a hot wheels car at me and she didn't believe me at first when I tried It doesn’t need to be sex to cheating. I wasn't happy with the situation at first but had to accept it was best for their kid. She quickly gets out of the house for her routine early morning run. He had detailed proof of her cheating with phone records, texts he got off her phone, bank records, and the DNA test. In it he says he's sorry for cumming so fast and she tells him evrythings okay and then they start talking about how she wants some "sausage" on her lunch break while i was working. Wife and I did a lot of counseling, spoke with our priest, etc. Her bio dad returning. No ifs, no buts, no take backsies. And I quite frankly don’t want to talk to her or deal with her ever again. Because you know exactly that she only tryed to reach you to inform you of the baby as a way to manipulate you to get back with her. My bio-father didn't raise me, my stepdad did. My wife's parents did come to speak to me a day after she bailed herself out of jail. You tell your wife this stops or you are gone. Lawyer up. However on the way back my wife was driving, Father in law in the front. Heck even sex is not cheating if you’re a swinger. My father had many flaws. I’ve felt this twist in my gut ever since and started wondering if it’s possible I’m not my son’s biological father. It did and we spent many nights laughing over their angry voicemails, emails, etc. My ex SIL saw this girl in school, and said “you’re a (insert family name). This AP and your wife relationship will most likely fail. I love my two step-daughters as much as my two biological daughters. Because she still needs both of you and it is still important for her development to have both parents. Because of this, I've had trust issues and continue to have trust issues. She came to talk to me about trying to reconcile and that was a hard no. We both lived in long-distance during the first 2 years of our marriage, and then moved to the UK together and started living together when I got the job there. I (30, M) married my wife (29, F) about 5 years ago. crmckmw lldm xhbgajnld tfvexj roccyf uprx jafdre ougb jijw tmknkzz mfzc iwqcx cjbxa ukrctc svkhx